A few days ago, I came to the conclusion that it is time to let some things go.
I found myself always complaining about relationships, work and family issues to the point where I noticed that there was a big pattern. I saw myself as a victim in each scenario and had a poor me mentality.
I would constantly find myself saying, “Why me this and why me that.”
I had to have a real sit down with myself and get to the bottom of this toxic cycle.
I had to ask myself:
What did you do to contribute to this situation?
What could you have done differently to prevent this?
What part did you play in the problem?
After asking myself these questions, I came to the conclusion that I wasn’t as innocent as I led myself on to believe.
The most problematic area in my life where I saw this as an issue was in my work life. Everyday, I had a sob story about something someone said or did to me.
I had people invested in my pain and even feeling sorry for me, but the problem followed me everywhere I went.
Things really hit the fan when I quit my 9 to 5. A week after starting my new job I got into a major confrontation with my coworker. I was so fed up that I didn’t know how I ended up in one bad situation to a worst one.
My initial reaction was to quit and start over, but I saw this as the perfect opportunity to make a change. I wanted to grow through this situation and change my perspective on the world and how I deal with my problems.
It wasn’t a smooth process, but I got better with time.
First, I was shady toward the girl, but this only made the situation worst. I became her and I realized that I couldn’t go on stooping to other people’s level. I had to learn how to create my own positive energy and not allowing others to change mine.
I was like a sponge to toxic energy and that was my problem. I soaked up anything good or bad and that is not healthy.
So, I challenged myself to a day of positivity. I challenged myself to go a day with out gossiping, being shady, taking anything personal or being moody and to my surprise I did it.
When people came up to me asking me about others I did not contribute my input, I changed the subject. When someone did something wrong, I addressed the issue in a calm manner and let it go after.
Now I’m not saying it was easy but practice makes perfect.
I also noticed that I struggled to let things go in relationships. When things wouldn’t work out, I found myself playing the victim and having a pity party.
Then I came to the realization that maybe things didn’t work out because it wasn’t suppose to. I’ve grown from every relationship and that is the beauty in it. Without those relationships I wouldn’t be who I am today so I acknowledged that every relationship served a purpose and everyone was stay for the long run and that is perfectly fine.
I never met a man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with so I was setting myself up for failure by waisting my time with people that I knew weren’t meant for me anyways.
Overall, I came to the conclusion that we make this issues so major in our lives when we really don’t have to. Live is too short to be bothered all the time.
Free yourself from whatever it is that you are holding on to and stay blessed.