What was the last thing that the person closest to you contributed to your life?
This an important question to ask yourself because you have to be aware of the influence that people have on your life. If someone is constantly bringing negative energy into your life, then it is time to reevaluate their position.
I have come up with a list of 4 types of people that you need to let go. In order to elevate to the next level you need to cut these toxic people out of your life as soon as possible.
Complain, Complain, Complain
We all know that one person that hates everyone and everything about life itself.
You know who I’m talking about. That person that always has a sob story and is looking for someone to feel sorry for them.
This type of person can be toxic to your peace, because it is hard to be positive when you are always being bombarded with negativity all the time. As much as you want to be there for your friend, you have to come to terms with the fact that you cannot help them.
No matter how much you do to make them happy, you can’t because that person lives for a good soap opera.
Some people enjoy having people involved in their confusion because it makes them feel important. They don’t have anything else to offer so they have to find a way to keep people interested and engaged in their lives. You don’t have time for this so if someone close to you posses these qualities then let them go.
This is a person that always sees the bad in everything. If everyone in enjoying the sun, they will say that it is too bright. If they win the lotto, they will say they need more. You do not want to be around someone who is always negative.
I had a friend like this before. He would call me and complain about how terrible his life ways. He would present me with a problem and I would present him with a solution. Whenever I tried to help him, he would sabotage it and end back up in a bad situation.
I became so frustrated because it seemed like no matter how much I tried to help him it never worked.
Don’t waste your time trying to help people like this because they will only drain the life out of you.
I am pretty sure that you saw this one coming.
If you have enough time to sit around and consume yourself in someone else’s life then you do not have enough going on in yours. You should be so busy living your life that you don’t have time to worry about anyone else’s.
Consuming yourself with other people’s drama only waste time that you can be spending on improving your life.
If you know someone that always has something to say about this person or that person then you should let them go. If they can talk about someone else they can talk about you too. You don’t need that negativity in your life.
I had a friend like this. She use to always tell me everyone’s business. I never thought much about it because I never thought that she would do the same thing to me. A few months back, I found out that she was telling people my business after we got into a small argument.
I knew she did it, because someone asked me a question about something that was said about me that only she knew. When I confronted her she denied it and I cut her off completely. That was the biggest betrayal that I’ve ever felt because I would never think that she would do something like that to me.
This brings me back to another point that I want to make. Be careful who you tell your business to. If you tell your business to someone who is known to gossip then your business will be all over the place.
If you have a friend like this then it is time to let them go.
If your friend is always at the center someone else’s controversy or confusion then this is a red flag that you need to run as far away as you can.
Reality TV shows are fun to watch and all, but no one wants to really live like that. If you knows someone that lives their lives like they’re on Love & Hip Hop or The Atlanta Housewives then you need to walk in the other direction as soon as you seen them.
You do not need to surround yourself with someone whose name is always in the mix, because if something happens to them and people associate you with that person then they can ruin your reputation or in some cases your safety.
Life is too short to always have to worry about someone getting you caught up in some drama that you don’t have nothing to do with.
Some say birds of a feather flock together and there is some truth to that saying. Yes, it is true that we are all unique in our own way, but the people closest to you have the biggest impact on not only who you are but who you will become.
One motivational speaker once said,
“Show me who your friends are and I’ll show you who you will become.”
This statement is so true because it is important to have people around you who are encouraging you to be a better person, not people that bring you down.
This sums up my list of the four types of people that you need to stay away from. If you fall under any of these categories, its okay. You always have room to improve and the first step to change is acceptance. If you know anyone who fall under these categories that I listed then share this with them and hopefully we can all grow together. For those who get let behind, leave them and don’t look back.